So at this point, you’ve read our About page, you’ve read our individual testimonies and perused through our wedding pictures. At this very moment, you may be asking yourself, what exactly is a Destiny Spouse? And where can I get one? We are so happy that you are here and asking about this fundamental question that should be at the forefront of the mind of Christian singles who want to be married. Before we explain what the spouse of destiny is, let us preface this entire page by expressing that it is a total biblically sound teaching with evidentiary support straight from your own bible. What we are presenting here is not an ideology, ethos or theory in practice, there are actual scriptures and verses that support this very factual information and, unfortunately, is oftentimes overlooked and dismissed by the church because there is no revelation. So all we ask is that you are open to receive the knowledge, be objective and then take it to God to give you more revelation with understanding.
The first thing you need to know is that we all have a destiny to fulfill on this earth as well as the destiny the Lord has for us with Him in eternity. The bible explains in Psalm 31:15 (NET) “You determine my destiny! Rescue me from the power of my enemies and those who chase me”. And it says in Romans 8:29-30 (NIV), “for those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers and sisters. And those he predestined, he also called; those he called, he also justified; those he justified, he also glorified.” According to the Webster Dictionary, destiny is defined as the events that will necessarily happen to a particular person or thing in the future. However, because we are Christians and do not to conform to the patterns of this world, the definition does not apply to us because it is void of God and purely circumstantial. As Christians, our destiny is the perfect will of God for our lives, it is the sovereignty of His rule and advancement over our lives that determines our destiny.
Take note of two key elements here, there is what we call the PERMISSIBLE will of God for our lives and there is the PERFECT will of God for our lives. The perfect example of the PERMISSIBLE will of God as illustrated in the Genesis 17 is the promise God made to Abraham and Sarah. God promised to make Abraham a father of many nations despite the challenges of being past a certain age. As the story goes, Abraham ended up fathering a child with the Egyptian maiden, Hagar, at the urgency and insistency of Sarah. The results of this rash and preemptive action and the inability to wait on God’s time eventually led to being in the permissive will of God, or Ishmael. God’s perfect and peaceful will for the future of Abraham and Sarah’s descendants was through the birth of Issac, the promised child. The consequence of that action has a lasting impact, as the blood line of Issac and Ishmael continue to wage war against each other till this present day. Food for thought here: how many of us today sitting in the churches or going about our daily lives are facing the challenges and consequences of having settled for being in the permissible will of God in our lives?
Another scriptural evidence is the story of Joseph in the Old Testament; Joseph was one of twelve siblings and a favorite of his father, Jacob. God promised to bless the nation of Israel through the redemptive work He did through the destiny of Jospeh. After almost being murdered by his own jealous brothers and eventually being sold as a slave, Joseph spent countless years in hardships and difficulties, but because he knew God would one day raise him to the level of greatness destined for him, he never lost track. Even as he rose to prominence working for a wealthy Egyptian officer, Potiphar, he knew that he had not yet reached the destiny God had for his life. Potiphar’s wife eventually wanted to have an affair with him, but because Jospeh had the fear of the Lord in him and wanted to remain in His perfect will, he ran away from the situation causing the woman to falsely accuse him of rape. This resulted in years of wrongful imprisonment, but the end result of the story is that because Joseph never deviated from the plan of God by sleeping with this strange woman- he was eventually freed and catapulted to greatness by becoming the Prime Minister of Egypt. And through a series of circumstances, he not only saved nations from a seven year famine, but he ended up being the very blessing that sustained a generation and multiplied it. Another food for thought here: how many Potipher’s wife has the enemy sent to detract and distract you from marrying the spouse of your destiny?
Let us continue to espouse that although the destiny spouse is a God ordained spouse who will take you straight to your divine destiny, it must be expressed that there is a ‘testing’ that you must go through. Some of these testing WILL include fighting a spiritual warfare. An illustrative example of the ‘testing’ process, is the story of Isaac and Rebecca in Genesis 24. When the time came for Issac to marry, his father, Abraham, sent one of his servants to bring back Issac a wife from his native homeland. What happens next is nothing less than remarkable. The servant ends up encountering a stunningly beautiful woman by the name of Rebecca and, by faith, requests of her to give him some drinking water. Rebecca complies without asking any questions and also notices the forty camels he is traveling with. Without a single thought to the grueling task, she ends up watering all forty camels. If a single camel can take up to fifty-three gallons of water, and let us suggest one bucket of water holds up to a gallon—you do the math. She worked very, very hard that day. The end result of that story is that Rebecca had to be tested twice in order to receive her destiny spouse. First, she willingly provided service to the servant and his camels, and she also passed the test of spiritual delay when her family asked her to spend additional days home before embarking on her new journey of life. Had she stayed home those extra days, the story of Rebecca and Issac might have turned out differently than what is written in Genesis 24. In this instance, the fight was not easy, but the lasting effects of this marital relationship is the countless generation that was birthed from this lineage.
It must be emphasized, and we can not stress this enough, that most Christians today do not pass the type of testing that is required to get their spouse of destiny. Most usually fail during the waiting process as temptations, weakness of the flesh, self-made ‘timing’ (too soon or too late), not trusting in the will of God enough, or wanting to take matters into ones own hand have led people to live a life that is not only outside the will of God, but living a life void of God’s plan. There are countless Christians today that although they live good lives, they are not in the perfect will of God since there is no favor of the Lord upon their lives. Most are powerless, have no gifts of the Holy Spirit, they can not heal the sick or cast out demons, and often times do not bear the fruits of the Holy Spirit. However, there is good news: as you fast and pray- ask the Lord to imbue you with wisdom, knowledge and understanding from up on high during the waiting process. Our God is faithful, and he is the rewarder of those who diligently seek him. DO NOT EVER GIVE UP!
The last couple of points we want to disclose about the spouse of destiny is to watch out for counterfeits!!! Just as the Lord has the perfect spouse for you, the enemy will also attempt to send the wrong person to detour you from your destiny. The person the enemy sends maybe someone you’re extremely attracted to and may even be someone you have always dreamed of marrying. However, err on the side of caution because that person can take you straight to the pits of hell if God has not revealed time and time again, to multiple sources that this is indeed your God-ordained spouse. That is why it is extremely of dire important that you be connected to the Holy Spirit so you can discern if the person is from God or the devil. 1 Corinthian 13:8-9 says, “love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part. The take away from this is that even the most powerful prophet can prophesy over your life telling you that this or that person is your spouse, but unless you have direct communication and knowledge from God, do not settle for second best. Follow these three short steps to be on the safe side: you must be attracted to this person, you must love this person and you must be at peace with your decision to marry the person.
This segment is for the encouragement and reassurance of our single women and men of God that your efforts in keeping wait is not in vain. We can not agree with you more that the waiting process is difficult and full of trials and temptations because both of us have undergone our fair share of difficulties and trails individually and collectively. Some of you may be stressed out and running in a panic that time is ticking and you feel like you’re running out of time. Please do not worry, your Issac or Rebecca will surely come to pass at the perfect appointed time. Habakuk 2:3 says, “This vision is for a future time. It describes the end, and it will be fulfilled. If it seems slow in coming, wait patiently, for it will surely take place. It will not be delayed.” Take a look at Ciano, he had just turned forty when he married the wife of his destiny and the timing could not have been more perfect. Issac was also forty when he received the spouse of his destiny, so if you feel like timing is against you, don’t worry- you will receive the bride or groom of your destiny.
We promise this is the last point and this is strictly for married couples. If you know you’re in the perfect will of God and you and your spouse are fulfilling your earthly destiny while preparing your self for your eternal destiny- then bravo to you and congratulations!!! God is officially on your side fighting your battles and giving you victory over your enemies. However, if you are not sure if you’re married to your spouse of destiny or know for a fact that you’re in a Godless marriage. Then we suggest taking sometime out of your life to truly give your life to Christ and pursue the things of God. Join a Holy Spirit filled church with biblically sound teachings, preferably one with a deliverance ministry. Go through the process of repentance, fasting, praying, and learning to fight spiritual warfare. Ask the Lord to deliver you from any demonic entanglements and to realign you and your spouse back to the original plan of God for your lives. We promise you that you can do anything through Christ who strengthens you and all things are possible through God.
As we come to a close on this page, we want to strongly encourage you to read on your own some of the great couples of the bibles who also happened to be destiny spouses. Some of them include the story of Isaac and Rebecca (Genesis 24), Ruth and Boaz (Ruth 2), and Queen Esther and King Xerxes (Esther). Each of these relationships helped to further expound on the promises and blessings of God for his people by multiplying them as many as the stars in the sky, but by also saving them in times of hardship and trials. Also, please take note that it was through a series of these destiny marriages that the blood line of Jesus, the savior of the world, was born from.
We hope this page has helped you in your quest is discovering information on destiny spouse or presented an awareness of this biblical teaching that is not taught in most churches today. We will be discussing this teaching in more detail in our upcoming blogs, YouTube videos and by God’s grace- in small workshops in the future. In the mean time, please feel free to continue exploring our page and send us a message with all your questions, comments, prayer requests and inquiries on our contact page. May God richly bless you and may you find the bride or groom of your destiny.